Confessions of a First-Time Dad-To-Be: Father’s Day 2019

JoJo's Performance Marketing Manager, Emily is currently expecting her first child, which means her husband Alex is experiencing his first ever Father's Day today! (Yes, it still counts even if their baby hasn't arrived yet) We had a chat with Alex to see how he's finding the pregnancy so far, and what his hopes are for the future when he finally gets to meet his little boy. Have a read of the blog below, and let us know how your partner felt on their first Father's Day in the comments below!

Cute content below. I'm not fighting back the tears as I type this, you are... And Alex, you're going to do a fantastic job!

Pregnancy mum and dad

1. Happy Father’s Day! How does it feel to be celebrating it for the first time as a soon-to-be father?
Equal parts exciting and absolutely terrifying!

2. How are you both finding the pregnancy so far?
It’s a very special experience. There’s so much to learn – just when you think you know everything you need to know you find out there’s a whole new book you need to read just to keep up with baby’s development. There are also magical moments, like feeling him kick for the first time. I know it happens all the time to lots of people but it still feels like some kind of miracle is happening.

3. What do you think will be the most difficult part of being a dad?
Lack of sleep and lack of experience. I love a lie in and I like knowing what I’m doing, so I’m certainly going to be a fish out of water. I think if someone told me I’d have to start a new job that lasted every hour of the day, and on less than a few hours sleep, I’d probably say no!

4. And the most rewarding?
By the sounds of it, from talking to family and friends who know – pretty much everything else.

5. What’s the one thing you can’t wait to do with your little boy?
I can’t wait to see his face for the first time, and I’m very excited for when he gets a bit older and realises how much of a comedic genius his father is. I think my sense of humour would go down well with the very, very young age bracket.

6. What are the top 3 life lessons you hope to teach him?
Don’t be scared. Talk to new people, try new things, follow your heart.
Focus on the positives. There are more good people and good things in the world than there are bad.
Getting your heart broken is the worst and best thing that’ll happen to you.

7. Becoming a parent drastically changes a person’s life, do you feel prepared for it? How (if possible) can you prepare?
Well, we’ve got a dog, so that’s eliminated my chance of a lie in for the last six months! I’ve been setting up a Dad support group on WhatsApp for emergency advice when the baby arrives, a couple of my friends are now seasoned professional fathers, so I’m hoping they can guide me through the tougher times. And I have the best wife in the world, so that’ll be a big help.

8. How do you think your dog Mabel will fit into the role of big sister? Do you have any plans ready for how you will introduce her to your baby?
I think to begin with she’ll be wary and confused. But after not very long at all I expect she’ll become very protective of her little brother. As for introducing her, it’ll be in the quiet of our home with no one else aroud. I think she’ll be an excellent big sister.

9. If you could offer one piece of advice to first-time dads out there in your position (just a few weeks away from the birth), what would it be?
Talk to everyone, loads. Ask your parents all the weird questions about having babies and giving birth and the first few weeks, even if it feels embarrassing or awkward. Admit to your friends who have children that you have no idea what you’re doing, and lean on them for support. And most importantly, keep talking to your wife. Ask her if she’s okay, do as much as you can for her all the time – even if you think you’re doing brilliantly you’re probably only just about doing okay.

10. Have you read any parenting books/ who do you turn to for parenting advice and what is the best advice you’ve received?
I’m reading a book on hypnobirthing and another quite blokey book about all the stuff they don’t tell dads about having a baby. The biggest help has been grilling my mates for hints and tips. I think most books leave out a lot of need to know info. The best single piece of advice I’ve received? Probably to not freak out every time there seems to be something wrong with the baby – they’re tougher than they look.

11. What are you most looking forward to doing with your boy when he’s older?
Assuming he’s into these things: watching Manchester United with him, teaching him chess, introducing him to my favourite novels, and (fingers crossed) enjoying Doctor Who together.

12. And finally, how do you plan on celebrating this Father’s Day?
Spending a bit more time thanking my own dad for the brilliant job he did.